It is rooted in not being judgmental, however tempting they may be. Are we really required to be so understanding that we can’t get even a little cross with one side or the other, or both?
Not according to Relate; your friends will be feeling blamed and attacked enough as it is.
These women are youthful and find themselves far more attracted to men in their 30’s than their 40’s. You say you’re looking for a woman in her mid-30’s. But if none of them are looking for you, your wheelhouse is going to be women in their late 30’s to early 40’s: Find the people who want you.
“It’s like getting broody when all your friends are having children,” she says.
“If your friends are getting divorced you can’t help but feel a sense that it could happen to you.” Fear was indeed the first emotion experienced by my friend Sally, when her best friends split up earlier this year.
According to the latest figures by the Office for National Statistics, divorce rates among the 40-44 age group are increasing again, a trend that would appear to be reflected in Tinsel Town: Jennifer Garner (43) and Ben Affleck (42) have fallen victim after 10 years, two daughters and a son together.
Supermodel Heidi Klum (42) and the singer Seal (52), who used to renew their wedding vows at a lavish annual bash, divorced last October after totting up nine years and four children together.
In a further – and not entirely unexpected – development, successful women with younger husbands are particularly vulnerable, according to Manchester-based solicitors JMW, who report a rise in younger husbands leaving their middle-aged wives.